How do you regain TRUST back after painful BREAKUP?

So you just broke up with your girlfriend or boyfriend… what was the reason for the breakup? You lied, cheated, loss interest, the sex was bad or you just couldn’t stand being with the person anymore. May be the breakup did not end on bad terms, perhaps both of you agreed to be friends and date other people. Whatever the case may be, I’m sure the breakup wasn’t easy for either of you. So where do you go from here….
If your plan is to get the person back because after few months of being a part you realized you messed up, you have a lot of work to do. If your plan is to move on to something better because going back would be a nightmare, you still have a lot of work to do.

Let’s explore the first plan of getting the person back. The number one thing that is on that person’s mind and your mind is TRUST? Will he/she be able to trust me again or what will it take to regain the trust back? Trust is definitely a necessity in a relationship. Trust can be defined as “confidence or faith in a person or thing to carry out their commitment.” Trust is often earned and not given. Trust is a verb, not a noun; therefore it is shown through action. If you are to regain a person’s trust back, the one obvious thing you can do is keep your commitment and follow through with your word. If you say you are going to do something, make sure you do it. Being honest and open about your feelings is another way to make sure your needs is getting met and also helps foster a trusting relationship.

If you have violated the person’s trust, you cannot expect the person to trust you right away. It takes time to build trust and sometimes you never fully gain trust back. People often will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel. Depending on the type of person you are dealing with, once trust is broken that person will become guarded and detached emotionally. You have to understand the person you are dealing with, then ask yourself, is he or she worth fighting for? And if this person never trusts me again will I be able to have a healthy relationship with them?

Patience, prayer, persistence can take you a long way in a relationship. It also important to keep in mind that going back isn’t always the answer, just like finding something new does not always mean it’s going to be better. It’s more important for you to evaluate yourself and identify the things that you need to work on so that you can be a better man/woman and attract a better mate in the future. If you do not have a healthy mind set you will find yourself in unhealthy relationships over and over again. Before you jump into your next relationship or go back to a previous relationship take time to be alone and discover who you are.

God Bless, Keep the FAITH, luv Ms.Kinsey