Tips on Controlling your EMOTIONS…while Dating or in a Relationship

Hello people, thanks for reading this blog. I hope it help someone. I am going to be quick and straight to the point with this one. I often hear people say, “ Women are too emotional “ and I believe that is a true statement, however, I also believe that men are just as emotional as women they just do good job at controlling it. Women we show our EMOTIONS way too much. When we are upset we have to talk about it, when we are happy we have to talk about it, when we are sad we have to cry and talk about it, when we are lonely WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT IT! You get the point, we talk too much about how we feel and that is sometimes annoying and uncomfortable for men to deal with. Ever notice that a man rarely talks about what he is going through, that’s because he understands that it’s not necessary to talk about everything. Sometimes it’s good to just SHUT UP and keep your thoughts to yourself. I am not saying that it is always good to remain silent, but just know WOMEN…YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT… anything you say can and will be USED against you!!! Trust me ladies, men are listening to you when you are talking and they are storing all that FREE information into their brain to determine what type of woman you are and thinking about whether or not they should be with you for the long-term or short-term. If you appear to be emotionally unstable you can forget about any good man wanting to be with you long-term, unless he is just as crazy as you are ( LOL). I am not perfect at controlling my emotions either, but my experiences has taught me that when I’m in control over my emotions I feel empowered and I get better results. Below are Tips on controlling your emotions. Before you read the tips remember “if you want to control your emotions, you first have to control your thoughts” -

Tip 1 : Say less, DO MORE… in other words instead of verbalizing your problems to everyone who is willing to listen, process your thoughts with yourself by praying or journaling. Think of your own solutions then TAKE ACTION…. Let your actions do the talking.

Tip 2: Never tell someone how you feel about them until you are sure of how they feel about you….if they don’t tell you, you don’t tell them, save yourself from being disappointed if they don’t feel the same way.

Tip 3: Don’t appear needy: nobody likes the clingy needy girl or guys…give people their space point blank period! Get hobby, find something to do and that does not mean go on facebook and post how much you miss the person…GEEZ REALLY? Too emotionally attached! Lmbo

Tip 4: Be a good LISTNER , WATCH AND LEARN- good listening skills pays off when it comes to controlling your emotions…I once heard, the person who listens the most has the most control over the conversation because they are able to process more than the person who is talking. My grandma used to say “baby the bible says pray and watch.” I will never forget that, I will always pray and watch because you can learn a lot by observing people.

Tip 5: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER become obsessed over anyone, BE OPEN TO EVERYTHING, ATTACHED TO NOTHING! God did not put us on this earth to idolize and worship people…stop saying, “ I don’t know what I will do without him” uumm yes you do, what did you do before you had him??

Those are my TOP 5 tips!! I hope this blog help someone become better at controlling their emotions.

God bless, Keep the FAITH, love Ms. Kinsey