Hello Fellas! This blog is for you (particularly for single men). I will keep this simple and straight to the point because I know men have short attention spans (lol hahaha! I really love you guys). The first thing that came to mind when I started writing this blog is how can I help the guys? I am always encouraging and uplifting women. I said to myself, “what is one thing that men struggle with the most when dealing with women?” the first thought that popped into my head was “approaching women.” Now most of you men are probably thinking, “nah sheek, I don’t have that problem; I’m a G, I got game, I know how to get a lady” Bull Crap! At some point all of you men were afraid to approach a woman because fear of rejection. Please let me help you and give you a better understanding from a woman’s perspective so that you can reduce your chances of being rejected. Let’s be clear, I am not speaking for all women, but I am sure that most women will agree with what I am about to say. Below are 5 easy steps that all men should follow before approaching a woman that you’re interested in. Be sure to read brief explanation after each step.
1. First thing you need to do is check yourself before approaching her. Take a quick look at yourself and ask yourself: DO I like the way I look today? How do I smell? (Is my breath fresh, hygiene right, etc)
Explanation: If you don’t like the way you look, chances are she don’t either. Men should always wear cologne because smelling good draws a woman closer to you…even if you’re not looking your best, if you smell good she will have something positive to say( she will say, “at least he smell good”…lol)
2. Think about what you are going to say before approaching her and eliminate these words from your vocabulary: what’s good ma? Can I holla at you for a minute? You fine can I get your number? All that immature language is annoying…
Explanation: The first thing you say out of your mouth will determine if she rejects you.
I would suggest you say something like this: Excuse me, what’s your name? I see you around here a lot and I was curious about you…okay this is situational, but I’m sure she would want to know what your curiosity is about which will lead to follow up question…at least you got her attention now
3. Be confident: A confident man can have any girl that he wants. Women think confident men are so sexy (at least that’s what I think LOL). A confident man is comfortable in his own skin. He has a certain type of walk, talk, a sexy vibe just swag….You either have it or you don’t. The best way to exude confidence is to be you!
4. Make eye contact: if you make eye contact with a woman for longer than 15 seconds and she is gazing back into your eyes, please believe that she likes you, interested or feeling a certain type away about you
5. Keep it simple: When you approach a woman for first time keep the conversation short. If she shows interest in you and you want to talk to her again, I would suggest you ask: how can I keep in touch with you? Instead of asking can I have your phone number; Not all women want to give out their number
I know this list is simple and basic, but most men have difficult time following these basic steps when approaching women. I hope this list encourages men to come correct when approaching the ladies. If you have any questions or would like me to elaborate please leave a comment below
~God Bless, Keep the FAITH, luv Ms. Kinsey~
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
SEASONAL MEN
There seems to be a trend going on in relationships. There are a lot of seasonal relationships. One minute you see a couple together in the winter by spring their relationship has ended. I believe I have a solution to fixing this problem, so pay close attention to what I am about to tell you. When you meet a guy or a woman you like do not be in a hurry to commit to a title. What’s the rush? Most women are quick to ask a man for the title of being his girlfriend after only dating the guy for a short time. Why is that? I believe it’s because women fear that without a title they will not be able to keep the man from dating other women or they feel a sense of security by having a title. They think if I am his “girlfriend” then I’m entitled to certain rights and privileges.
I am here to tell you a title does not give you anything, but a false sense of hope. You hope that a man will not cheat; you hope that he will fall in love with you; you hope that he will marry you. Listen up women, just because a man calls you his girlfriend does not guarantee that he will do all those things that you hope for. If a title meant anything why are most men still cheating? Why is the divorce rate so high? Why does a man tell you he loves you and creeps around with the next chick when you’re not available? I am not here to tell you how men think; I am not a man. You can buy Steve Harvey book “Act like a lady, think like a Man” if you want to know how men think. I am writing this to tell you to get rid of your emotional thinking and USE YOUR BRAIN. Use the power that all women have. It is time to pull out your womanly tools that God blessed you with before jumping into your next relationship. All women have these tools, but not all women are smart enough to use them before getting into a relationship. These are the tools that women have: 1. women instinct, 2. Ability to investigate/interrogate 3. Ability to be charming and pleasing without giving up the cookie 4. Ability to get what you want when you want it 5. Ability to multitask. We have an advantage over men because men do not possess the same power.
Attention Women!!! Use these tools before deciding to be in a relationship. The key word in the latter statement is BEFORE. I would suggest that you observe and be friends with someone for a whole year before getting into a relationship. I know what most of you are thinking; a year is too long. Well that’s why you keep getting seasonal men; you do not want to wait for the right man. While you are waiting use your tools. Tool # 1 investigate/interrogate…Ask questions, not just any question, the uncomfortable ones (what are your goals? Do you have a job? Do you have a relationship with God? Do you have any kids? Do you like kids…lol etc). Tool # 2 is being charming without giving up the cookie…. The best way to be charming without having sex is to give a man a compliment. Men have huge ego’s they love to be praised, you don’t have to sleep with him to make him feel good. Men will love to be around you if you treat him like he is the best thing since slice bread LOL. Tell him things like “baby you look’n real handsome, I love that hair cut, you are such a great man to wait for me until I am ready”….LOL (this works…it will get you through your investigation period). Tool #3 is ability to get what you want when you want it…The key to getting what you want is to know what you want. Let a man know what your expectations are and what you want out of a relationship. Let him know that you are focus on your future. Men love a woman who is focus and have standards. Tool #4 is ability to multi-task…. While you are trying to figure out if this man is the one for you, make sure most of your time is consumed with taking care of you and your business…do not spend to much time worrying about if the man is right for you, spend time getting your self right. Lastly, Trust your instinct. A woman’s instinct is always right.
The moral of the story is getting to know a man through all four seasons before jumping into a relationship. It takes time to know someone and figure out there intentions. You want to observe a man through all four seasons (winter, spring, summer and fall). You want to see how he treats you in the winter when it’s cold outside and fewer women are dressing scandalous. Will he stick with you in the winter or just use you as a cuddling buddy and bounce on you in the spring? Or will he spring forward with you and be around all summer? Or will he start to act up in the summer and Fall back until its winter again…LOL stop putting up with this mess and take control of the situation. Be his friend and use your tools until you get to know him better.
~God Bless, Keep the FAITH, love Ms. Kinsey~
I am here to tell you a title does not give you anything, but a false sense of hope. You hope that a man will not cheat; you hope that he will fall in love with you; you hope that he will marry you. Listen up women, just because a man calls you his girlfriend does not guarantee that he will do all those things that you hope for. If a title meant anything why are most men still cheating? Why is the divorce rate so high? Why does a man tell you he loves you and creeps around with the next chick when you’re not available? I am not here to tell you how men think; I am not a man. You can buy Steve Harvey book “Act like a lady, think like a Man” if you want to know how men think. I am writing this to tell you to get rid of your emotional thinking and USE YOUR BRAIN. Use the power that all women have. It is time to pull out your womanly tools that God blessed you with before jumping into your next relationship. All women have these tools, but not all women are smart enough to use them before getting into a relationship. These are the tools that women have: 1. women instinct, 2. Ability to investigate/interrogate 3. Ability to be charming and pleasing without giving up the cookie 4. Ability to get what you want when you want it 5. Ability to multitask. We have an advantage over men because men do not possess the same power.
Attention Women!!! Use these tools before deciding to be in a relationship. The key word in the latter statement is BEFORE. I would suggest that you observe and be friends with someone for a whole year before getting into a relationship. I know what most of you are thinking; a year is too long. Well that’s why you keep getting seasonal men; you do not want to wait for the right man. While you are waiting use your tools. Tool # 1 investigate/interrogate…Ask questions, not just any question, the uncomfortable ones (what are your goals? Do you have a job? Do you have a relationship with God? Do you have any kids? Do you like kids…lol etc). Tool # 2 is being charming without giving up the cookie…. The best way to be charming without having sex is to give a man a compliment. Men have huge ego’s they love to be praised, you don’t have to sleep with him to make him feel good. Men will love to be around you if you treat him like he is the best thing since slice bread LOL. Tell him things like “baby you look’n real handsome, I love that hair cut, you are such a great man to wait for me until I am ready”….LOL (this works…it will get you through your investigation period). Tool #3 is ability to get what you want when you want it…The key to getting what you want is to know what you want. Let a man know what your expectations are and what you want out of a relationship. Let him know that you are focus on your future. Men love a woman who is focus and have standards. Tool #4 is ability to multi-task…. While you are trying to figure out if this man is the one for you, make sure most of your time is consumed with taking care of you and your business…do not spend to much time worrying about if the man is right for you, spend time getting your self right. Lastly, Trust your instinct. A woman’s instinct is always right.
The moral of the story is getting to know a man through all four seasons before jumping into a relationship. It takes time to know someone and figure out there intentions. You want to observe a man through all four seasons (winter, spring, summer and fall). You want to see how he treats you in the winter when it’s cold outside and fewer women are dressing scandalous. Will he stick with you in the winter or just use you as a cuddling buddy and bounce on you in the spring? Or will he spring forward with you and be around all summer? Or will he start to act up in the summer and Fall back until its winter again…LOL stop putting up with this mess and take control of the situation. Be his friend and use your tools until you get to know him better.
~God Bless, Keep the FAITH, love Ms. Kinsey~
Monday, November 9, 2009
Letter to My Father
Heavenly Father,
I woke up this morning with you on my mind. I thank you Lord for all that you have done. I thank you father for never leaving me. In the midst of my struggle, doubt, fear and feelings of not being worthy; you and only you were there to see me through. Lord I ask that you continue to shape and mold me into the person you want me to be. I say YES to your will, I say Yes to your word.... Lord you said " If I abide in your word I am a disciple and I shall know the truth and the truth shall set me free"... Lord I am thirsty for your word and I want more of you. I cant do this by myself, I need you to survive. Teach me Lord, Lead the way and I will Follow. I want to be a faithful servant, Please continue to strengthen me in the areas that I am weak.
Sincerely,
Your Child
I woke up this morning with you on my mind. I thank you Lord for all that you have done. I thank you father for never leaving me. In the midst of my struggle, doubt, fear and feelings of not being worthy; you and only you were there to see me through. Lord I ask that you continue to shape and mold me into the person you want me to be. I say YES to your will, I say Yes to your word.... Lord you said " If I abide in your word I am a disciple and I shall know the truth and the truth shall set me free"... Lord I am thirsty for your word and I want more of you. I cant do this by myself, I need you to survive. Teach me Lord, Lead the way and I will Follow. I want to be a faithful servant, Please continue to strengthen me in the areas that I am weak.
Sincerely,
Your Child
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