What's The Diffference Between LOVE and IN LOVE?

Last night at my apartment, I had a discussion with 5 intelligent young ladies and I learned a lot about myself, relationships and love. One of the questions raised in our discussion was, “what’s the difference between "LOVE and IN LOVE?" I often hear people say, “I love him/her but I'm not in love. So I asked the ladies for their opinions. One young lady stated, “to be in love means to experience the pain of love." At first I was confused by her statement because to me love does not involve pain, if it’s painful how it can be love? Isn’t that abuse; is what I stated back to her. Another young lady further explained the concept of love and pain. She stated,” we are not talking about pain in physical sense, but to be able to experience the emotions that your partner is experiencing so for example, she said, “if your dude is hurting or having a bad day, you feel a sense of sadness and hurt because you don’t want to see him that way." The other young lady added, “to be in love you cannot be guarded you have to be able to be vulnerable, be willing to give your all even if it means risk getting hurt."

Wow! After listening to these ladies share their personal experience on love and relationships I began to reflect and think about love in a different way. In order to experience true love, you have to learn to love fearlessly, is what I repeated to myself after they left. Guarding our hearts blocks us from experiencing the true essence of love. Often as women we guard our hearts because of fear of getting hurt due to our past experiences or due to witnessing negative experiences of other people relationships. When our heart is guarded we find ourselves running from commitment, ruining good relationships and developing irrational beliefs about love itself. We say things like “love doesn’t exist, love is overrated, there are no good men or women...etc" these negative thoughts keep us from experiencing good relationships. The reason why many people who have these irrational beliefs cannot find a good man or woman is because they don’t believe that one exists.

So I challenge all of you who have given up on love, not to guard your heart, but to let your guard down and believe in love again. One or two bad experiences should not ruin your future experiences. You NEXT should not have to pay for what your EX did. (lol, sorry that’s kind of funny) But on a serious note, as my friend stated, “Love is LIVING, it gives us purpose." Everyone deserves to be loved and find true love. If you have not found love perhaps you need to reflect on your views about love...ask YOURSELF am I guarded. Have I healed from my last relationship? What are my beliefs about love and how have I come to believe that? so the difference between love and in love depends on how much you are willing to invest in a person, are you willing to give a 100% or just 50%....There is no half stepping when you are in love. THINK ABOUT IT!



~ God Bless, keep the FAITH, luv Ms. Kinsey~

My Struggles are my GREATEST Strengths

I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth; I’ve learned how to embrace the struggle. My struggles are my greatest strength because they have made me who I am today. They are reminders that I can overcome anything. The best thing about not having everything handed to you is you learn the value of hard work. Most people do not appreciate what they have because they did not work hard to obtain it. There is nothing that I cannot do, I’m good at everything, now watch me transition from good to great…

To be Continued....

LIFE

Life has its ups and downs, but through it all you must persevere. Keep pushing is what I keep telling myself. I am not where I want to be, but I am grateful that I am not where I used to be. God has placed me where I need to be for the moment. I know somewhere in my future I look a lot better than what I do now. Every day I am setting new goals, constantly working hard to reinvent myself. I work hard on becoming a better communicator, better friend, better sister, and better role model. I realized a long time ago that nothing will change unless I change. I will never allow myself to become a victim of my circumstance, but I will be victorious in every situation. It is wasted energy to think negative so I will remain optimistic about my future.

I'm looking forward to inspiring people around the world. I am looking forward to telling my story; I thank God for the obstacles because now I have a testimony. I am stronger because of what I've been through, grateful that I did not grow up easy with rich parents and everything given to me. Throughout my years I have learned to appreciate the little things in life and not take anything for granted. I often remind myself that life is a temporary assignment, nothing last forever; my job is to figure out what to do in the meantime.

I'm living in my meantime, taking every day one day at a time. Before I leave this earth if it is God's will, I will leave behind a legacy, the world will know my name and people will say I inspired them with my words and my smile brightened up their day. (LOL) I just want to be God's little helper while I'm here on earth. Every day I pray and ask God to use me to help others and every day he answers my prayers. I am truly grateful.

God bless, I AM Keeping the FAITH, Luv Miss Kinsey

Random Love Thoughts

Is it okay to say YES to love when the mind says NO? LOVE is a simple four letter word, but yet the meaning of true love is so complex...The complexity of love is when you love something that does not love you back, it’s when you desire something greater and you’re not sure how to find it, it’s when you look within yourself and you feel complete, but everything around you feel so obsolete.…Love is viewed by some as a confused state of mind…the confusion of it all is when you go through withdrawal… when that special person is no longer with you..Have you ever been LOVE SICK? Or just sick of being in LOVE…the symptoms of discomfort, afraid to be alone, heart ache, racing thoughts, sleepless nights…aren’t you tired of fighting for LOVE…is love really a battlefield? NO! But LUST is… the bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV) love isn’t love until you’ve had that type of LOVE…

SINCERELY,
~simply loving me until he finds me~

God Bless, Keep the FAITH, luv Ms. Kinsey

FUN IN THE SUN

UP UP and away we go!!!

I had so much fun parasailing, I believe we were 150 ft in the air




On the Boat getting ready 2 go parasailing, jet skiing, and snorkeling. I had so much fun!

Rev. Al Sharpton

Rev. Al Sharpton preached an awesome message today at New Birth Baptist Church in Miami, Fl. I'm glad I was present to witness his sermon. He preached on Ephesians 6:10-12. I took notes just like I do every Sunday, but there was something special about his message that stuck with me. His four main points were:

topic: Are you ready for the fight? "the reason why most people dont stand up and do what God called them to do is because they are afraid; if you put on the whole armor of God on you don't have to be afraid." ~rev. Sharpton~

1. have you prepared for the fight?
2. do you know your calling or what you are fighting for?
3. do you know who your enemy is?
4. who are the people that are fighting with you are they strong enough to last through entire fight or will they give in?

I know these points may seem vague to you, but he broke them down so eloquently. You had to be there to truly understand his message. I would elaborate more, but its bed time. Goodnite world!

" You got to have a destination to have an arrival" ~rev.al sharpton

~God Bless, KEEP THE FAITH, luv Ms. Kinsey~

Psalms 23

Amen. One of my favorite scriptures

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Beautifully written by Maya Angelou. I love this poem!