SEASONAL MEN

There seems to be a trend going on in relationships. There are a lot of seasonal relationships. One minute you see a couple together in the winter by spring their relationship has ended. I believe I have a solution to fixing this problem, so pay close attention to what I am about to tell you. When you meet a guy or a woman you like do not be in a hurry to commit to a title. What’s the rush? Most women are quick to ask a man for the title of being his girlfriend after only dating the guy for a short time. Why is that? I believe it’s because women fear that without a title they will not be able to keep the man from dating other women or they feel a sense of security by having a title. They think if I am his “girlfriend” then I’m entitled to certain rights and privileges.

I am here to tell you a title does not give you anything, but a false sense of hope. You hope that a man will not cheat; you hope that he will fall in love with you; you hope that he will marry you. Listen up women, just because a man calls you his girlfriend does not guarantee that he will do all those things that you hope for. If a title meant anything why are most men still cheating? Why is the divorce rate so high? Why does a man tell you he loves you and creeps around with the next chick when you’re not available? I am not here to tell you how men think; I am not a man. You can buy Steve Harvey book “Act like a lady, think like a Man” if you want to know how men think. I am writing this to tell you to get rid of your emotional thinking and USE YOUR BRAIN. Use the power that all women have. It is time to pull out your womanly tools that God blessed you with before jumping into your next relationship. All women have these tools, but not all women are smart enough to use them before getting into a relationship. These are the tools that women have: 1. women instinct, 2. Ability to investigate/interrogate 3. Ability to be charming and pleasing without giving up the cookie 4. Ability to get what you want when you want it 5. Ability to multitask. We have an advantage over men because men do not possess the same power.

Attention Women!!! Use these tools before deciding to be in a relationship. The key word in the latter statement is BEFORE. I would suggest that you observe and be friends with someone for a whole year before getting into a relationship. I know what most of you are thinking; a year is too long. Well that’s why you keep getting seasonal men; you do not want to wait for the right man. While you are waiting use your tools. Tool # 1 investigate/interrogate…Ask questions, not just any question, the uncomfortable ones (what are your goals? Do you have a job? Do you have a relationship with God? Do you have any kids? Do you like kids…lol etc). Tool # 2 is being charming without giving up the cookie…. The best way to be charming without having sex is to give a man a compliment. Men have huge ego’s they love to be praised, you don’t have to sleep with him to make him feel good. Men will love to be around you if you treat him like he is the best thing since slice bread LOL. Tell him things like “baby you look’n real handsome, I love that hair cut, you are such a great man to wait for me until I am ready”….LOL (this works…it will get you through your investigation period). Tool #3 is ability to get what you want when you want it…The key to getting what you want is to know what you want. Let a man know what your expectations are and what you want out of a relationship. Let him know that you are focus on your future. Men love a woman who is focus and have standards. Tool #4 is ability to multi-task…. While you are trying to figure out if this man is the one for you, make sure most of your time is consumed with taking care of you and your business…do not spend to much time worrying about if the man is right for you, spend time getting your self right. Lastly, Trust your instinct. A woman’s instinct is always right.

The moral of the story is getting to know a man through all four seasons before jumping into a relationship. It takes time to know someone and figure out there intentions. You want to observe a man through all four seasons (winter, spring, summer and fall). You want to see how he treats you in the winter when it’s cold outside and fewer women are dressing scandalous. Will he stick with you in the winter or just use you as a cuddling buddy and bounce on you in the spring? Or will he spring forward with you and be around all summer? Or will he start to act up in the summer and Fall back until its winter again…LOL stop putting up with this mess and take control of the situation. Be his friend and use your tools until you get to know him better.

~God Bless, Keep the FAITH, love Ms. Kinsey~